so, it's friday afternoon, the week is over. yes, my dears, Marriage Protection Week will officially be over tomorrow. we, however, celebrate the end of every week on friday. G and i are both home on fridays, the only weeknight neither one of us is teaching. often we cook a meal and light the shabbas candles, breathing a sigh of relief at not having to rush off to improve anyone else's lives.
those of you in straight marriages.....do you feel better at having had a week protecting your sacred institution? do you feel less threatened now by people like me and my partner, who have been together for over 22 years, raised two boys to splendid (and straight, yes, even married!) manhood, have conjoined extended families with grandchildren, nieces and nephews, greatnieces and nephews, with whom we often celebrate all kinds of holidays? a recovered catholic and a relaxed jew, we have been married in no religion, authorized by no authority save our own, but we have survived, continue to survive, the slings and arrows of a longterm relationship. there have been some doozies (slings, and/or arrows) too. but here we are, at the end of Marriage Protection Week, 2003, looking forward to a weekend of subversive activities like planting rose bushes, maybe taking a drive to look at autumn foliage, baking brownies, calling the kids, sleeping late, going out for sunday breakfast.
to think that our domestic, entirely nonthreatening, existence as loving partners (and that of so many many others just like us) freaks out a whole coalition of supposedly christian people (including that messenger from jesus himself, our president)!!! it's enough, really, to make me rethink my image. these people are on to something, yes, we are scary. yes, living examples of the fact that it's possible to have deeply committed, important, lasting bonds in a relationship, a family, without permission or license from any Higher Authority, human or divine. the possibility of being decent human beings outside religious or legal governance. a scary scary thought.
2 comments:
22 years! Congratulations. That is so wonderful. How are the domestic partnership laws in your area? Here in CA, Gray Davis just signed a DP bill, but the rights/protections won't be in effect until 2005.
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Geeze Louise, Girl, you sound almost HUMAN!! But that can't be. The CWA says for you to marry would be like a cat marrying a dog. Not the same kind of mammal. LOL
Good to see you put your foot forward here. Keep up the work. We all have to sound off to be heard above the din of our bigot president. It's no wonder he was "chosen" instead of elected.
That Happy Chica,
Marcia Ellen
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